Oct 29, 2010

Another gem from Oprah Winfrey

"Growing up, I could never find my name on any of those license plates or lunchboxes. Now, I know what it was for — to start my own network. A whole network, a whole channel that we're designing to carry the Oprah Winfrey message. I know that as I start out on this next chapter, there's going to be some mistakes. I know there's going to be some stumbles. I know I'm a work in process and progress. I know nothing new is perfect, but I'm not scared. I'm not afraid." -- Oprah Winfrey

While I laughed out loud reading this (Oprah just looooves her some Oprah), I now know why I couldn't find those license plates with my name on them either! ;)

By the way, I didn't get tickets to Oprah next month, so it looks like I'm not bringing home a fridge, a $10,000 or a new car.  Mark my words, I'm going to be on the show before it ends.

Oct 28, 2010

A Great Read

I was gifted this book from a co-worker today, titled What Would Audrey Do?

Audrey Hepburn is amazing.  Women loved her, every man she met wanted to marry her, she was literally the most amazing woman to have walked the Earth.  While it's a fun and tongue-in-cheek type of book, it has some great advice for all of you ladies out there.  A recommended read (and I'm only two chapters in)!

Another Hollywood Affair

Question: is there anyone not cheating on their partner in Hollywood?  It's truly appauling.  As much as I like giving people the benefit of the doubt, I'm learning that usually a lot of what you hear about Hollywood is true, unfortunately.

As much as I'd like to believe my precious Justin Timberlake is a stand-up boy from Tennessee, who writes love ballads, supports Shriner's and is best friends with Ellen, I'm wondering if he's actually a sleezeball who confesses he took Britney Spears' virginity on SNL, sings about having "Sexy Ladies," writes songs of revenge and cheats on his girlfriend because he doesn't have the balls to break up with her.

Yes, the latest tabloid gossip is that JT is cheating on Biel (yet again) with OU alum and Daily Show correspondant Olivia Munn.  I'm not one to judge people on looks, but you have to be a crack whore to cheat on Jessica Biel. 

But I'm not surprised.  Justin has women throwing themselves at him, and it takes dignity and character to get through all that and maintain committed to a relationship.  Does Justin have those characteristics?  I don't know, I don't know him personally, but if he's been affected like all the other guys in this town who are successful and attractive, I'd venturing towards "no." 

I mean, I've had guys here tell me, verbatim, that it's not cheating if they aren't married.  Oh really?  Must be nice living a life of mediocrity, guys, but if you're looking for a real catch of a woman, you're going to have to commit to us before putting the ring on our finger... gotta prove the real estate is worth the down payment. 

So men in Hollywood (and all over the world) are cheating on some of the most beautiful and classy women the world has to find: Ryan (allegedly) on Reese, Brad on Jen; I mean, even Pricess Diana had rumors that Prince Charles was cheating -- AND SHE WAS AS PRINCESS.  And Kim Kardashian called out Reggie Bush for allegedly texting with another woman while they were together.

Guys, just stop it.  You know better!  If things are starting to dwindle with your woman, have some gumption and break up. And you know good and well that texting flirtaciously with another girl (that includes social media as well) while you're in a relationship is wrong, wrong, wrong.  If you're talking about  dating/"doing"/what-have-you with someone who isn't your girlfriend to your friends, it's crossing the line and it's time for you to end things.  I'm not saying you can't look and comment on how attractive someone is, but if you're doing something or saying things that you'd feel uncomfortable talking to your girlfriend about, it's not okay.

Oct 27, 2010

What do I have to do...

... to get Ellen's job? We have to be kindred spirits because I get too much gratification watching other people get scared to death.

I want a job where in October, I can spend every ounce of energy I have pranking and scaring the ever-living crap out of people.  It's literally my favorite thing to do.

So of course I was thoroughly amused when Ellen had David Beckham perform a hidden camera prank on an unsuspecting masseuse.  PS: Why are people with accents so darn cute?!

Also, this is still my favorite scare of all time.  Ellen's laugh makes it 10x better than she originally intended, reminds me of my mommis when she laughs :)

And here's a compilation of all her best scares... I love Kellie Pickler's reaction! haha!

Oct 26, 2010

Quote of the day

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
—Philippians 4:6-7

re: an open letter to Marie Claire

I tried to post a consise comment on Marie Claire's site, but it hasn't posted any comments of mine for whatever reason.

I wanted to say this: the people who are outraged by the comments in the article are not outraged because she makes remarks about obesity being a health risk.  We get that.  What we're outraged by is that she makes it sound if obesity is intolerable, worthy of punishment almost.  She makes people who are obese out to be less than human, not even capable of walking in front of her without enducing disgust.

I feel like everyone is entitled to their opinion and the Freedom of Speech, however, as a journalist and a writer for a considerably high-profile publication, you would think she would excerise restraint against hateful speech and comments.  In fact, hate speech is not tolerable at all.

I hate to say it, but the responses she's received are expected.  But  it's very clear something is psychologically wrong with her, so instead of berrating her with tactless and offensive comments, we should be praying for her peace of mind.  Just because she can't tolerate some people doesn't mean we should be intolerable as well.

An open letter to Marie Claire:

Because this looks good.

Dear Marie Claire,

I am an avid reader of your magazine, a 20-something who is interested in more than just gossip and has a knack for beauty, fashion and lifestyle reads.  I am not your target market, but have been reading MC since I was 14. 

I enjoy your editorial pieces and especially love your opinion columns, but today a friend posted an article from Maura Kelly that I was not only disappointed with, but personally offended by.

I am not overweight.  I would regard myself as in-shape, someone who takes care of their body, eats well, partakes in the necessary indulgences, and works out several times a week.  Does that make me a saint?  Not in the least, but this is the lifestyle I live.

Maura's article doesn't attack people like me, but those who are overweight.  She not only exemplifies that she is a complete idiot, but that, assumably, she knows a few people who are as well, because her editor asked the initial question: "Do you really think people are uncomfortable when they show overweight people making out on televison?"

I am appauled that this question was even asked.  To begin with, it's incredibly ignorant.  It is asking if people are made uncomfortable when affection is displayed by two people, based on their appearance.  It's discriminatory -- it's bigotry.

Then, as if the article couldn't get any more ridiculous, Maura doesn't cease to put me in complete outrage when she talks about how anorexia is preferable to obesity, because "at least some slim models are simply naturally skinny."  Oh really?  I don't think that anyone who is 5'10'' and taller is naturally 100-110 pounds.  Sounds a little crazy to me, especially since you have to purposely not eat and stay below a certain calorie count to diminish any muscle mass you may have.  But maybe I'm just delusional. 

Let me be clear: I know there are health risks associated with obesity and that it's an epidemic; the United States is struggling to overcome it, especially with all the fast food and overproccessed products we have at our fingertips.  I practice living a healthy and active lifestyle, but never in my mind have I thought that people who are too thin or too heavy are so dispicable that I can't even stand to watch them be humans.

Apparently to Maura, obesity makes you a disgusting human being, not allowed to partake in normal activities such as kissing your partner without enducing nausea or offending people who are a healthy weight.  I can admit that there are people who are eating themselves to death, taking no precaution in what they are putting in their mouth, and doing nothing to try to fix or change it.  And it's true that being overweight does bring forward various health issues. And, yes, I have read the stats that when people are overweight, the smallest change can make the biggest difference (i.e. not drinking soda, eating a diet rich in vegetables and proteins, running 30 minutes a day, etc.).  But what about the people who are genetically overweight?  Or have thyroid issues?  Or the ones who keep trying hard to lose the pounds but aren't having success? 

She then proceeds to give some advice to all of the readers who are struggling with weight -- oh, thank you! -- and how we can fix it.  That "we can do it!" Wow, I feel so privileged that after tearing me down about my weight that you're offering me some assistance.  Why didn't I think these things before?  Oh, that's right, it's because I'm lazy.  It's a huge slap in the face, not only commenting on our looks and how we repulse you, but insinuating that we are too moronic to attempt to eat right and work out. (I know it sounds like I'm making this a personal issue, but there is no other way to describe these feelings without using first person.)

Forget what type of person you are; if you have a good heart, the best intentions, and a solid moral compass. Hell, you could be a murder, a pedophile, a complete heinous b*tch, but if you look aesthetically appeasing then you'll be just fine -- you won't disgust Maura by walking across the room with your trim and toned body! And as for all of you who are overweight, you might as well be an alcoholic or a "heroine" (as she wrote it) abuser, because that's what Maura Kelly thinks you're comparable to.  She doesn't even want to watch you walk across the room.  Anything you do is absolutely disgusting.
She writes this article as if she is sincerely concerned about the health of the readers, but it's really an outlet for her to create and project discrimination; further, it allows us to believe that there is only one way to look, which is airbrushed and flawless, much like the people in their magazine. 

I don't know what I'm more outraged by: the negativity, the discrimination, or the fact that she even tries to justify anorexia to prove her point.

This isn't a weight issue.  She has made this about what people look like.  And if I were you, Marie Claire, I would have given this article a once-over before printing something that praises anorexia over obesity because "obesity costs our country more money," (let's forget that losing someone to anorexica can cost us someone far more precious: life) and, apparently, being overweight is unhealthy, while being anorexic is not -- sometimes, it's "natural." With the eating disorder epidemic that seems to be plaguing the world, shame on you for printing this, proving that the world is still caught up in physical discrimination.

This bottom line?  Maura Kelly, you're taking up space in a magazine most would love to write for, filling it with your beligerant and offensive candor.

In regard to Great Expectations

Last night, as I was writing the previous blog entry, I felt things were a bit "off."  I knew what I wanted to say, but had no idea how to say it.  Alas, I wrote what I did because those feelings were weighing on my mind, and I said it as best as I could.

Then, this morning, I listened to a podcast from Third Reformed Church titled "The Journey from Greed to Contentment."

The sermon starts with the passage from Luke 12:13-21.  Specifically, "The Parable of the Rich Fool."  I was completely put at peace!  Especially since just last night, I wrote about my worries and the importance of putting faith and love before our ideal of success: money, which can lead to greed.  Then, I listen to this podcast and God has provided me scripture to help me with this issue.  It's truly awe-some.  Thank you Third Reformed Church for this message!

It talks about how greed isn't focused on the present, it's always looking toward attaining more and more in the future.  That it is never satisified because it's constantly seeking more.  And since the future regards the unknown, it brings fear, which is why it doesn't bring peace or contentment.  (Exactly what I was trying to say, had no idea how to express it.)  Later on in Luke, the verse 12:34 says, "For where your treasure is, your heart will be also."  What you put in the highest regard is what you will seek; what will ultimately rule your life and what you will attract from others.

Here are the verses:

" 13 Someone in the crowd said to him, "Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me."
 14 Jesus replied, "Man, who appointed me a judge or an arbiter between you?" 15 Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions."

 16 And he told them this parable: "The ground of a certain rich man produced a good crop. 17 He thought to himself, 'What shall I do? I have no place to store my crops.'

 18 "Then he said, 'This is what I'll do. I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store all my grain and my goods. 19And I'll say to myself, "You have plenty of good things laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink and be merry." '

 20 "But God said to him, 'You fool! This very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself?'

 21 "This is how it will be with anyone who stores up things for himself but is not rich toward God."

You can download Third Reformed Church's semons online or on iTunes!

Great Expectations

How do you rate your success?

Are you determining how successful you are by the job you have, or how much effort you put into your job?  Do you think you're successful because you are making a lot of money?  Or because you've given a lot to help others?  Because somebody loves you?  Or because you love someone else?

This is an interesting time in my life, where I'm trying to determine what I want in life and how successful I will become.  I don't know the outcome, all I know is that I have to work hard at everything I do and be patient.  But let me tell you, it's been a STRUGGLE letting God take the reigns on this.  I think all of us want the best in life.  We have great expectations for ourselves, and we should. But sometimes, the path we want to pave in life isn't how God wants to pave it.  And most importantly, the need for success shouldn't take over what's most important in life: our faith and loving one another.

Since moving to LA, one consistent thought I have is that I don't want to end up like a lot of jaded, angry Los Angelenos. (Note: this is relevant to any city.)  You'll hear them yelling and crying in their offices.  You'll see them doing things just to make a buck.  They are mean to the green people, the ones who have a zest for life.  I don't want to look back in 20 years and think, "What happened to having a loving family?  Living a fulfilling life?" and realize that I had been so caught up in making money and my career that I missed out on what life is really all about, missed out on the memories and the opportunities.

Don't get me wrong, I know you can juggle a passion and a family life; I know a lot of people who do it well.   I also know a lot of that has to do with one's character.  And I do know that right now I am young and I'm not supposed to be focused on anything except "doing me," but when the time comes, I know that the love of my life and my children will be the top priority.  It's difficult right now to grasp that, for fear of making the wrong turn or a bad decision.  I just see a lot of people these days putting their family second or third to one thing they're catapulting to first: money.

Our generation has been trained to focus on money as a way to measure our success.  We determine our status, our "rank," our success all on how much money we are or aren't making.  And sometimes, this can get the best of us.  "I'm going to take this job because it's going to pay me more."  "This job sucks, but it's going to lead me to a better job where I can make more money."  "This job is wonderful!  I love it!  It doesn't pay much, but I know once I learn more I'll be promoted and it will pay off."

It isn't what you do, but how you do it.   John Wooden

I've taken internships because they paid well but I hated them yet the name looked good on my resume; I've accepted crappy paying jobs that I loved and knew would profit me later, and I've had jobs that I enjoyed but wasn't passionate about, however they paid me extremely well (but I wasn't progressing or motivated).  Everyone has told me: do what you love; you will not find fulfillment with money.  Will it make your life comfortable?  Sure.  But when it comes down to it, not money, not your job, not even love from another person can fulfill you.  Your relationship with God and your faith is what will ultimately determine your inner peace and how happy you are.  Without faith, you can have all of those things, but feel lost, helpless and insecure.

I'm not saying that you decline every job because it's not your "dream job" or because it doesn't make you blissfully happy.  Jobs can teach us knew things, make us realize what we don't like, and even be something complacent in our lives that pays the bills while we're going through other things (school, for example).  Just don't get sucked into the "I have to figure out the rest of my life right now" trap, where y you're too worried about your future.  Life is not yours to figure out.  It's God's planning and timing, remember?  We are lead to certain opportunities because they are going to prepare us for something bigger and better.

Look at Emily Giffin, author of Something Borrowed (and various other great chick lit books). She attended law school, practiced for a few years at a firm she probably loathed, yet got paid well enough to slash all of her student loans.  She dealt with the job because she was achieving her goal of paying off the loans.  Once they were all paid, she moved to London, worked on a manuscript and now she's working as a successful author.  She literally did a 180 with her career.  Yet I'm sure while she was in law school, money wasn't motivating her, she actually enjoyed what she was doing.  Same now: the money isn't motivating her, it's the ability she has now to freely express her creativity and get paid for it (while summoning a steadfast fanbase).  Once we get off of this whole "I better choose the right career!" schtick, we will be a lot better off -- where you start doesn't determine how you're going to finish (i.e. lawyer to author, etc.).  I mean, Ben Silverman (Reveille Entertainment) was a history major in school and now he's a huge producer (The Office, Ugly Betty, The Tudors, The Biggest Loser) and past co-chairman of NBC Entertainment.  Anything can change.

On another note, there's the job that you take and loathe, but it's in the field you want to be in.  It's the whole "paying your dues" aspect of it all.  And it's true.  The grunt work will pay off if you know it's something you want to do with your life, otherwise what's the point of putting yourself through all of the torture?  You take the pay-cut because you know in the end it's going to take you places.  You have to be patient and you have to have faith.

So what's my point here?  Your job, your social status, your income... none of that is going to matter at the end of the road.  What is going to matter is that you were happy, that you loved other people, that you put all your trust in God, and that you served him and others.  Your life was not intended so that you could see how you may be served, or how you may profit, but how others my be served, and how the world can be profited.

Stop worrying about the impending success you will eventually have.   We all have great expectations for ourselves that should motivate us, but not overcome us.   I can guarantee you if you work hard and are a good person, that God provides justice.  You might go through some hard times, but it does not go unnoticed by him.  He is a gracious God, always providing justice to those who follow him.

Things might be still, you might not see any progress, but God is working.  Measure your success in love and faith.

Material possessions, winning scores, and great reputations are meaningless in the eyes of the Lord, because He knows what we really are and that is all that matters. John Wooden

Oct 25, 2010

XBox 360: Kinect Party

Last night I had the pleasure of working the Kinect party in Beverly Hills.  This was the second party I worked that wasn't at a venue, but was actually at a house that had been rented out.

My job wasn't anything out of the ordinary, just checking in guests.  However, since it was a rather relaxed event, I was able to go in and watch a performance by Miike Snow and get my groove on with one of Kinect's games, Dance Central.

So let's back up.  What is Kinect?

It's a console that works exclusively with XBox 360 that does not require the use of a remote or controller.  Cool right?  The console detects your moves all by itself!  When you jump, your avatar jumps; when you dance, it dances.  You place it on top of the TV so it can "see" you.  It looks like a DVD player but functions like camera of sorts.  It's also activated by voice commands.

There are a ton of different ways you can utilize this unit, but my favorite has to be with Dance Central.  Think Dance Dance Revolution mixed with Wii, minus the pad and the controller.  There is a whole library of songs you can choose from and three levels to play on (easy, medium or hard).  You can play alone or battle against a friend for points.  You get points based on how well you hit the moves.

This is PERFECT for parties.  Everyone, hands down, was at this station the most because it was hilarious watching people try to dance, and when they could dance, it was amazing.

The console is only $150 and I know it's going to be the hottest gift this Christmas!  Kinect is available on November 4th.

To make thing even more awesome, The Tiz herself, Ashley Tisdale, was the beautiful hostess of the event.  I didn't get a chance to meet her, but she looked fabulous and was bubbly and smiley the entire night.  She even played the games!

The Tiz playing Dance Central
Miike Snow performed and their performance was the highlight of the night.

Miike Snow performing poolside

And, Ryan Phillipe showed up!  Long time no see, mister.

Quote of the Day

Love one another and you will be happy.  It's as simple and as difficult as that.  

Michael Leunig

Oct 22, 2010

Hamilton Wesley Wigglebottom

I want to move into a house next year here in Los Angeles.  Why?  Well, besides the obvious: having a garage, not having to deal with neighbors who, without fail, are smoking pot when I get home from work, and the whole laundry debacle, I need a nice home for THIS GUY because I am going to purchase his identical twin brother.  He might be a year younger but they must be twins.  I will name him Mr. Wiggles, Babe or this other spectacular name I have for a dog that I can't remember right now.

Um, precious personified anyone?  First off, he looks like a pig.  Second, he hops.  Third, I want to pick him up and let him sleep on my chest throughout the night.  A quote I feel is so appropriate regarding my love for dogs:

“I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it.” Audrey Hepburn

Oct 21, 2010

People see God every day, they just don't recognize him. -- Pearl Bailey

In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.  1 Thessalonians 5:18 

When things are going well, it's easy to be on cloud nine. But I'm learning how important it is to keep seeking and talking to God even when all is grand.  It's a true testament of faith when we can trust Him during bad times, and when we do we  seek His counsel desperately.  When we're content and comfortable, He is even more worthy of that desperation.  Just like He walks with us up the mountain, He's beside us while we're on solid ground.

But when things are swell, when we have everything we ever think we could need and there isn't a cloud in the sky, it's easy to think "I can skip church this Sunday," or "I am taken care of so I don't need to seek God's counsel this week."

As for you, my son Solomon, know the God of your father, and serve Him with a loyal heart and with a willing mind; for the LORD searches all hearts and understands all the intent of the thoughts. If you seek Him, He will be found by you; but if you forsake Him, He will cast you off forever.  1 Chronicles 28:9 

That's not the case.  Even when life is grand, we need God.  We need him to guide us and with him we can learn for more than we could learn on our own.  The money can be flowing in, our family can be safe and healthy, we can be in love, we can land that amazing job; we think that God's working in our lives -- he's present, so it's fine.  During these times, we need to seek God more than ever to keep leading us in the right direction; to allow us to see what we can and need to be doing for others, and how we can cherish all of those blessings.  When we feel like we have a learned a lesson and there isn't any turmoil to muddle through, God is always preparing something to open our eyes, change our perspective and enhance our hearts.

I bow before your holy Temple as I worship. I will give thanks to your name for your unfailing love and faithfulness, because your promises are backed by all the honor of your name.  Psalm 138:2 

On a scale from one to 10

I posted a comment on my Twitter today: "Do guys really rate girls from 1-10? Discuss." Thinking no man would actually divulge this information, I got a plethora of responses: "No." "I don't think so." "Of course!" "140 characters isn't long enough to explain..." "I prefer to rate on 'Would you' or 'Wouldn't you?'" "Guys have to have standards."

The reason I bring this up is for two reasons: one being The Social Network. I hope you all have seen it. Otherwise, skip this paragraph. In a jealous, drunken loss of his mind, amazingly awesome douchebag Mark Zuckerberg creates FaceMash, which takes innocent undegrads at Harvard and pits them up against each other in a rather pathetic duel: their looks. Men thus could go through the site clicking on the picture of the girl they found the most attractive. Second reason I bring this up?  Last night I went out to dinner with a group and the guys started talking about women. Don't get me wrong, I'm not immune to hearing about other women and how hot they are -- I'll even throw in a "she's beautiful" if I feel they're right. But they were ranking women. "She was so hot." "She was perfect." "She was a seven but had a personality so it was ok." "Was she a 10?"

Let me clarify: I know these guys are harmless, nice people, so I'm not ragging on them in particular.  And while I have quite a few guy friends that have desensitized me to this kind of talk, it still got me wondering: are all guys in their 20s ranking women on a scale?  Furthermore, does this happen past our 20s?!  I had heard of guys doing this in the movies and on TV, but it was the first time I was a witness to it.

I get it. Guys like to look.  More than likely, regardless of if you're in a serious relationship, you're focused sports, partying and career goals; standard male, 20-something priorities.  You're attracted to women by physical appearance... but aren't we all at first?

Then I got to wondering if throughout life I've been completely naive and didn't realize that most men are ranking the female population on a scale. Furthermore, are men ranking women even when they're in relationships?  If a 10 sparked interest in my (hypothetical) boyfriend, would he be willing to kick me to the curb because, in his (or his friend's) opinion, she ranked higher than me? Was this the standard for every male in the whole world, even the stand-up guys?  Is this the case?  Or is this type of thing an exception, not the rule?

I know we're all young and more than any other time in our lives we're allowed to be selfish.  But this type of mentality isn't perpetual.  Eventually guys settle down. Yet with the divorce rate at 54%, you've got to wonder if it's because people are growing apart and not willing to stick through the tough times, or because (mostly) men are ready to make a run for it when something better, or more attractive, rolls around.  Is our generation of men in constant need of the next best thing?

I know I am not the only person who thinks about this, especially in Los Angeles, where a lot of people take the liberty to get nipped and tucked if they feel like any part of them is inferior.  Any woman who is around guys who are talking about how hot another chick is is probably browsing the notion that they too are being ranked and are wondering where they stand in comparison, regardless of what city they live in.  That thought has run through my mind a few times -- it's natural, even with my guy friends.  But frankly, if I'm being judged by some guy that I don't even know (or maybe I know well) and they happen to think I'm a "five with a great personality," I'm not breaking a sweat.  Are those things hurtful?  Sure, because anyone with a heaping spoonful of self confidence thinks they're great just as they are (we're all a 10 in our own mind).

So guys who like to rank women, here are some thoughts and advice from a southern girl with values, a lot to say and cleans up well (and who has a ton of beautiful girlfriends who are going to agree with me on all the following points):
  • You attract what you are.   I've heard plenty of guys talk about how they're looking for a great chick who has it all: brains, beauty, values and so on, but do you really think you're going to find that when you're busy determining if they are a seven or an eight?
  • Judging other people on that level makes it look like you're the one with the flaws and have personal insecurities
  • Most women have this fantasy that any guy that wants to be with them thinks they're they most beautiful girl in the world, but we're completely aware that we aren't Brooklyn Decker or Minka Kelly, and we don't need some guy to make others aware of that too
  • Who are you to rank women in the first place?
  • You have eyes of your own but now need a verbal affirmation of how attractive a girl is?  A standard "she's gorgeous" or "what a babe!" won't do?  Are y'all so dependent on the validation of your friends that they have score women to be able brag to them about it?  
  • I think the ranking system is a solid way for you guys to boast about the notches on your belt, which, in my opinion, means you're not really looking for a great gal to have a relationship with, but rather looking for a bunch of high-ranking beauties to sleep with
  • If you're our guy friend, we could care less that you're ranking other chicks, we're just hoping you actually end up with a 10 and won't settle for a two and that maybe, someday, you'll stop ranking all together (we want the best for you as always)
With all that being said, these aren't feelings only women have. I'm sure  you guys are also curious how you measure up, especially when you find a girl you really care about.  I think people don't want to be someone that another has to "settle" for; we want to be all anyone ever needs, which is why comparisons of this nature don't do anything good (this kind of reminds me why sorority recruitment and beauty pageants are tragic).

So guys? Explain yourselves. Are you ranking women? If so, why? What does it do for you?

And this is why I love Dianna Agron

Some people might find me a little "off" when I say this, but I thoroughly enjoyed the GQ spread with Lea Michele, Cory Monteith and Dianna -- and not for Cory.

Let's just say it: Lea and Dianna are gorgeous.  Any girl who has trouble admitting that is jealous, envious, blind, or all three.  They're distinctly beautiful in their own way, which is why people root for them on the show.  Yes, they might play the "underdog" or "mean girl" or the "pregnant chick" or "the really obnoxious one who has the voice to justify it,"  but they're both attractive.  And we all know that if they weren't, we probably wouldn't be ask inclined to watch the show, even if the music is catchy and the writing is amazing (and Sue Sylvester runs the show). 

So when GQ published these photos, I was stoked.  Granted, I don't know if Lea Michele posing on a locker room bench with her legs spread is exactly appropriate (for anyone), but I know she's 23/24 (my age) and not a 17-year-old Miley Cyrus.  She is an adult.  And so is Dianna, whom is the same age. 

Obviously people want something to cause a stir about, so the Parents Television Council went ape and started talking about how the photos are borderline "pedophilia."

I love it when people talk and have no idea what they're getting themselves into.  First of all, like I mentioned, everyone in the spread is 23 or older.  Cory is 28.  You can't have pedophilia without a child being involved.  Argument closed.

Second, does the PTC even watch Glee?  Do they understand that at least once an episode they refer to sex?  Does anyone remember last week when Santana and Brittany "made out"?  Or the references to Brittany's active sex life?  How about when Artie refers to his junk?  Heck, next week they are doing a very own Glee-version of the Rocky Horror Picture Show.  This is clearly not a show geared towards children, or even families for that matter. 

Anyway, Dianna decided to make a statement about the whole thing and she speaks with such eloquence that you would assume she was at least 35 if you hadn't seen what she looked lik, or that her publicist drafted a wonderfully written statement, until you hear the part about her and a pet dragon. I have to say she is so relatable that I feel like I know her (go figure).  I too had no idea what the heck Rizzo was talking about during "There are Worst Things I Could Do", or what broke in Kinicki's wallet when he and Rizzo were making out, or what the line "the chicks will cream" in Greased Lightning meant.  (Note to all my friends who came to the Grease 20th Anniversary Party in 5th grade: now we all know why all the high school kids in the theater were muggin' the whole time.)  It's the 50s!  It can't be sexual, right?  Yet the movie is blantantly forward about sex and of course I had no earthly idea.  I guess that's probably what most people who haven't seen Glee think.  It's practically a musical so it can't be provacative.

However Dianna's blog post pretty much says it all:  I'm an adult, this is Hollywood, this isn't who I am, it's what I do.  Amen for that.

Oct 19, 2010

Love is patient...

So remember how I was talking about patience?  I posted that blog last night for today.  Then, tonight, as I'm snuggling up in bed, I get my Bedside Blessing book and this was the message.

"To love and be loved is the bedrock of our existence.  But love must also flex and adapt.  Rigid love is not true love.  It is veiled manipulation, a conditional time bomb that explodes when frustrated.  Genuine love willingly waits!  It isn't pushy or demanding.  While it has its limits, its boundaries are far-reaching.  It neither clutches or clings.  Real love is not shortsighted, selfish or insensitive.  It detects needs and does what is best for the other person without being told."

Love is patient, love is kind.  1 Corinthians 13:4

Coincidence?  I think not.

“Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.” Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Patience is so important!  It allows us to grow and to learn.  It allows us to practice diligence and true faith.

Patience also allows us to build trust, which really is a testament to our faith in God.  We have to learn to have faith even when things aren't going how we want them: when times are rough, we are thankful for what we have; when everyone else is in despair, we have peace.  Those who have true faith are joyous even when the sky is gray, because they know the sun will come in God's will.

"The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.” Arnold H. Glasgow 

I know for me patience is one of the hardest things to deal with.  I want to know NOW!  Right now!  But the funny thing about God is that He isn't on our time.  We're on His time.  If it's not in His timing for us to move forward, we're not going to, and it's most likely because there is still a lesson to be learned, a strength to be gained or a problem to be overcome.

Sometimes (actually, a lot of the time), I sit and I think about my future.  Where will I be?  What will I be doing?  Will I have accomplished anything?  Who will be with me?  Will I be near my family?  Will I be doing what I love?  All these questions cannot be answered, because that is not something a person on Earth can know.  But God does.  He knows where we're going, what we'll be doing, and who will be there along the way.  He knows who will be removed, who's waiting for us and how long it's going to take.  Yet He also knows what's going to be required of us to get there.  We're so busy sometimes trying to find the answers to our lives that we stop living out the questions, living out the most magical part of life: now.

“Patience is passion tamed.”  Lyman Abbott

I know we're all mostly overly-eager about accomplishing things, whether it be earning all A's, landing that promotion, sealing the deal on your dream job, overcoming an illness, or maybe it's finding someone to share your life with.  Regardless of what we're wanting to find, it's always best to let God hold the reigns.  I always feel awkward and unfulfilled when things are forced in life.  It's always better when things trickle along, so at one point you look back and say, "That's why I had to wait!" or "Look at how God connected all those people and situations! I had no idea!"  God is humble; He isn't screaming from the rooftops,

"Hey!  Johnny!  The reason why you didn't get that promotion and David did was because I needed to move some mountains in David's life.  He needed this success.  Furthermore,  you won't even be in your current position much longer because you're going to be offered your dream job at another company in just a few days!" or 
"Rhonda, I know you're lonely, but I'm bringing you someone in about 36 months, you just have to find inner peace first.  Plus, we're currently working on letting go of your past troubles." 

Nope, He's awesome because He's a God who surprises and delights His children.  And when he does, you look back and think, "He really is awesome, and I'm glad I waited."

“The principle part of faith is patience." George MacDonald 

Prayer request

Everyone please pray for my brother's friend and teammate, Ragan Pope.  Yesterday he injured himself pretty badly at baseball practice and broke his leg in two places when another player slid into him.  I know that it was probably pretty hard for his friends to witness a something like that, and especially hard for his parents to see their child injured and unable to do anything about it.  I'm sure the teammate who slid into him probably has a lot on his mind... unfortunately, that is a part of the game and it was simply an accident.

I know Nick is personally a little shaken up about it, given he hasn't seen an injury like that in his 18 years.

I do not know the family personally, but please pray for their peace of mind.  Please pray for a speedy recovery for Ragan and help to ease the hearts of the boys who where involved and everyone who had to see something that can be as devastating as that.

Oct 18, 2010

My so-called life

I think it's always when I particularly don't want to do things that I always end up saying "I'm so glad I did!"  For instance, Friday:  It was pretty dreary out and I had just spent the last few hours at my desk drinking some celebratory champagne (we just got a new GM) and indulging in a vanilla Sprinkles cupcake.  Basically, I was toast (doesn't take much).

After running a few errands (note: I was sober at this point), I decided to go home and lay low.  My friend and I were texting each other the usual: "What are we going to do tonight?"  But seeing as nobody wanted to join us on an epic night adventure, I figured I'd call it a night and go to bed early.

Not so fast!  Said friend wasn't having any of it, so I got dressed and went to pick her up.  We ended up at Trousdale and I wasn't sure how I was going to like it (I had only been there once for an event), but needless to say we had ourselves a good time.

Why, you ask?  The sightings, of course!

First up: Cuba Gooding Jr.  Where has he been lately?  I have no idea, but he was getting down on the dancefloor.  Allow the hilarity to ensue.  Show me the money, Cubes.

After admittedly getting turned away from VIP TWICE (you'd think after the first time we'd feel defeated, but alas we forged on; we didn't have the necessary blue wristband that half of our group managed to get), somehow, someway, we got in.  I really don't remember how it happened, but I think we can attribute it to Taryn's friend Joe. 

We get in and the first person we see is Lamar Odom.  We were hoping a Kardashian was going to pop out, but I knew better: they were all in Vegas for Kim's 30th birthday.  Womp womp.

Next up?  Ryan Phillippe.  Yes ladies, I'll go ahead and confirm: he looks amazing for a father of two.  He's short (in my opinion), but I was wearing 5'' heels, so one could only assume that he was around 5'9''/5'10''.  It kind of weirded me out that he was a dad and was at a local LA haunt though.  Guess dads gotta get their mack on too! Haaaaay!

I guess it was curly hair night because we ended up at a booth with Matthew Morrison.  My Glee sightings are becoming more frequent.  I've yet to see Lea Michelle, Jenna Ushkowitz, Kevin McHale, Amber Riley, Naya Rivera or Heather Morris.  Maybe by the end of this year I'll see them all?  He seemed to be just hanging with a friend and looked to be having a great time.

I like how I still get excited seeing celebrities.  At least I'm not jaded!  It's fun seeing people you recognize out and about.

Oct 15, 2010

Work Hard and Be Kind

"Entrepreneurship is living a few years of your life like most people won't, so that you can spend the rest of your life like most people can't."  - Anon

"The greatest reward in becoming a millionaire is not the amount of money that you earn. It is the kind of person that you have to become to become a millionaire in the first place."  - Jim Rohn, was an American entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker. His rags to riches story played a large part in his work, which influenced others in the personal development industry.

Work hard, struggle now, never stop learning and keep on keepin' on.  You'll reap the benefits once you've earned them.


Enjoy your Friday and have a safe weekend!  It's almost the end of the week... take some time to count your blessings!

Oct 14, 2010

Seen and seen

I'm not an idiot... I know you all love the "look who I've seen lately" posts.  So here's one... it's pretty jam packed:

Last Friday I was at Cha Cha Chicken in Santa Monica and some actor was in front of us in line.  This guy is the definition of "generic actor who always plays someone stoned."  I'm not kidding.  I kept thinking he was in Dazed and Confused but I can't find him anywhere on IMDB.  I'm also pretty sure he was on an episode of Friends.  Update: upon further research, I have no idea who the hell we saw at the chicken stand.  We know he was someone, but we were all too chicken (puns!) to ask him what he was in.  So it's going to remain an unsolved mystery until he pops up in another show or movie I watch.  And by the way, the guy were were thinking of was Kyle Howard, LC's boyfriend, and the episode was "The One With Joey's Award."

So since that post doesn't count for anything... let's get to the more interesting info:

A few days ago I was riding in the elevator at my work where there are several different businesses.  As I was riding to the lobby, the elevator stopped to let someone on.  I recognized the man so I politely said "Hey" as any nice southern girl would, but it turns out I have never met this person and only recognized him because he's all over the tabloids.  It was Lindsay Lohan's father, Michael.
Anyone who knows me can testify that I have a thing for wanting to help and nuture people... make them "better," whatever you want to call it.  I can say that about 25% of my desire to come out here was to find 1) Britney and 2) Lindsay to befriend them and given them a dose of what sane people act like.  Unfortunately it hasn't happened yet!  Drats!

Wednesdays are always hoppin' at Las Palmas, so I went with a friend from TCU at the end of September.  We both weren't drinking (well, maybe a drink) so it was a great night for people watching. One of the people I was especially thrilled to see was Mark Salling.   He had his little mohawk going again and didn't really talk to anyone.  And he was smoking.  Buzzkill.  
It's always interesting seeing people from shows you like... it's like seeing a dog walk on it's hind legs: bizarre.   PS: Can anyone confirm that he's been kicked off the show?  I'm getting all kinds of pissed with Glee this season. 

Speaking of Glee, a few of my TCU friends have moved out to Los Angeles and that's been absolutely heartwarming for me!  Feels a little more comforting to know that I have some Fort Worth friends out here.  Long story short, one of the friends had a birthday dinner and when I showed up Cory Monteith was there.  At dinner.  Just hanging out.  Not a big deal?  
Actually, it wasn't.  Very nice and down-to-earth guy.  I didn't get to talk to him that much, but he introduced himself to me, which sounds normal, except that most guys out here in Los Angeles literally won't speak to you because their big fat egos make them think that's the proper way to treat people (hint: it's not).  Most of them think they're famous so they don't bother with introductions or engaging in conversation.  Pathetic but true.  He seems to be pretty level-headed and picked up the entire table's tab!  What a nice guy, right?

I can only hope I run into a Kardashian sooner or later!  Love me some Kim.

To Forgive is Divine, Part II

My first post was about why we have to forgive ourselves, so let's get to the big cheese: forgiving others.

You know, I think I speak for everyone when I say that most of the time we want to hang on to those things that hurt us in the past just so we can feel sorry for ourselves.  I know that some things legitimately will mess with our minds and our hearts for an extended period of time, however there comes a point where we have to consciously decide to move forward and not be "broken" or "hurt" anymore. So really, if throwing a pity party is not the reason, why hang on to the emotions of anger or resentment?  They aren't fixing anything or helping.  They're only causing turmoil.

When things happen and you get your feelings hurt, it's wisest to forgive.  Honestly, whether the other person cares or not, forgive them.  It will help you tremendously.  This can go for circumstances too.  Let's face it: certain situations out of our control can hurt us because it's not going the way we'd like... like losing our job, or worse, losing a loved one or a friend.  It's easy to want to place blame and to hold on to the hurt, but I encourage you to let go of the grief and move forward, using your faith and relationship with God to pull you through.

It's when someone does something to make you feel inferior that's the real test.  It's easy to want to seek revenge; to want to make them hurt too.  Things we go through daily: perhaps a boss ridicules you, a coworker is catty, or maybe one of your closest friends has betrayed you.  Maybe it was even a family member.   It's easy to wallow in these past events and worry about the future.  But God advises us against these things.  What benefit does that even serve?  Furthermore, you are to love others as you would love yourself.  I don't think you'd wish hurt or pain on yourself, would you?

Think of things this way:  since we choose to believe people are inherently good, perhaps your boss is going through some tough things at home.  Maybe his wife wants to leave him.  What if he's about to lose his Mom? We can try to separate work from our personal lives, but at times it's hard to keep those emotions at home from coming to work.  And your coworker, what if they're suffering internally because they never feel like they're good enough?  They have never been praised or told how great they really are, so they are quick to point out your mistakes?  And lastly, your friends and family.  You have to believe that these people are probably struggling within themselves, trying to get through the guilt of hurting or disappointing you in the first place, because they love you.  There's no need to hold a grudge or make them feel even worse then they surely already do.  Forgiving those you love and care for is the most gracious act of love you could give them.

We need to forgive others because we have things of our own that need to be forgiven.  The number one thing God wants us to do?  Love the Lord with all of our heart, all of our mind and all of our soul, and love others as we would love ourselves.  That is the most important of all.  And it's going to take some mercy and some grace, but you'll be a better person for it.  Love others, regardless of the circumstance, the place, the time.  Because God loves us that way and we as human beings seem to make plenty of mistakes and create a lot of hurt.  I think it would be hilarious to be in God's shoes, watching all of his children down here on Earth.  We wouldn't dare forgive at times (some things petty, some heartbreaking), but He forgave those who nailed His only son to a cross.

Remember the Amish community that was torn a part that day when a shooter intruded into a schoolhouse and shot 10 young girls?  Let me take that back -- their community was not torn a part.  They were brought together.  They leaned on each other for love and on their faith for strength, and even in this terrible, awful scenario, they had the grace to forgive the shooter's family.  They let them know that there was no hard feelings and that their community was praying for their family.  These people lost children, yet they made the effort to put their own needs aside to make sure the shooter's family was shown love and respect.  That is literally awe-some.

And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.  Mark 11:25

For those of you reading who do not have faith in God, I know you will want to blame God for things that don't go your way.   It's easy to blame him for the outcome, for the result, for the pain you're currently going through.  But God wants the absolute best for you.  Perhaps you have an illness.  It could be a disease, it could be a disorder; anything.  I know those things are hard to comprehend, and it's harder to understand why you were the one chosen to go through them.  Know that what is meant for your harm, God will use to your advantage, if you keep faith.   I know it's so hard to see the big picture when you're going through the dark tunnel, but your life is worth everything to God.  He's placing you in a situation for a reason and everything you go through will have a positive outcome to it. You have to make a conscious effort to think positively.  

Be strong and confident in your faith and know that you are forgiven; use His grace and forgive others as well.

Bear no grudge.  Keep no record of grievances.  Love one another as you would love yourself!  You will be happier and better for it.  At the end of the day, know that people are inherently good (i.e. have some faith).  And know you are worth far more than any person here could assign you.

Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.  Colossians 3:12-14

Oct 13, 2010

Forgiveness, Part II

Wow.  I am elated at how the first post on forgivness has brought some peace to you!  If you wrote me a message, I greatly appreciate it.  It's always nice for a writer to know that people are actually reading these posts (and affecting them in some way).

I know I was going to post Part II today, but after the Chilean Miner rescue I was an emotional wreck and didn't feel the post was up to my standards.  So it will be posted tomorrow!  It's a good one.  Patience is a virtue...

Thank you so much for reading.  This is a passion of mine and I hope one day to have several outlets to express myself... but right now this blog is feeding my creative hunger.   So thanks again :)


Oct 12, 2010

Hockey and the Chilean Miners = emotional uproar for moi

I really want to go to a LA Kings game this year, especially since I've never attended an NHL game before.  Just like any sport, I get online and research the heck out of it.  I want to know anything and everything about it.  I was researching the Kings and for whatever reason decided to take a gander at the Coyotes in Phoenix.  Arizona is my neighbor after all.  Gotta know what's out there before committing to a team, right?

After finding out the team was pretty desolate after going through bankruptcy proceedings and coach Wayne Gretzky decided to peace out, I learned the team took a turn for the better and qualified for the playoffs this year.  Sounds nice enough.  However, in the research process, I found an article about left wing Taylor Pyatt.  His fiance passed away last April in a tragic car accident in Jamaica, just a few short months before they were to be married.  They new each other 11 years.  I found this YouTube video about it and it brought me to tears.  The poor guy's face breaks my heart.  You can tell he is hurting... but I found it so admirable that he was willing to discuss it in an interview.  God is definitely watching over him and I hope that he can find some peace about his loss soon.  I can only imagine going though something as tragic as that.

With this whole Chilean miner rescue going on and now reading this, I am officially an emotional basketcase.  So happy for those miners -- what strong willed and faithful people they have to be, sitting underground for 68 days, not knowing what was going to happen, and then having to be crammed in a tiny pod and hoisted up to the surface for 15 minutes.  I would have been claustrophobic and a total mess!  It's so amazing how strong the human spirit is.

My condolences go out to the Pyatts' and the fiance's family (her name was Carly)... such a terrible loss to endure.  Tell the people you love that you love them!  One day you might not be able to.  To my family and friends, I know I don't say it all the time but I love you all so, so much (seriously, you all have no idea).

Here's the video in case you watch to watch it.

Forgiveness is more than saying sorry (sorry), Part I

"There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they're necessary to reach the places we've chosen to go."  - Richard Bach, is a best-selling American writer.


The title of this post is from one of my favorite movies ever, Just Friends.  Samantha James (Anna Ferris) is a wickedly funny and ridiculous pop star who writes a song about forgiveness, saying sorry, and make-up sex.  It's quite comical and I recommend everyone watch it during the holidays (it's totally a Christmas movie and Ryan Reynolds looks divine in it).

Point being?  This post is about forgiveness... but not what you're thinking.

Too many of us are bearing grudges against ourselves.  Yes!  We're so quick to blame other people for things, but the worst grudge to hold is the internal one.  We hold on to guilt, it  keeps us from progressing and reaping the blessings God wants to bestow upon us.

As a young adult, I'm trying to figure out who I am.  Everyone says college is four years relegated to figure out who we are as a person, but I highly disagree.  Four years couped up with people the same age with the same goal (read: graduate) hardly qualifies as a time for us to figure out what our purpose is in life.
We all get on this kick that we are supposed to know our purpose immediately upon graduation.  That's a struggle in itself.  But I think one of the most widespread issues we have at this age is the struggle to be able to overcome our mistakes.  Perhaps we've said something we didn't mean, we made a really huge mistake on the job or we let someone or something (a team, a client) we care about down; maybe we didn't use our money wisely.  There are a variety of things that can pile on our minds, but I personally am learning to overcome those feelings of guilt that can creep so stealthily.

Those feelings that nag on you endlessly?  That's not God's will. That's the devil.  I know a lot of people scoff when the devil is mentioned because it just seems to hardcore (for lack of better words), but it's the truth.  He wants you to feel guilt.  He wants you to relive mistakes so that you can't move on.

“For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.”  Jeremiah 31:34

Here's the thing: God has already forgiven you.  Why can't you forgive yourself?  Nobody is perfect -- not one of us -- and we all do things we wish would do redo or take back.  But since we can't, what's the point of dwelling?  Why not move forward and learn?  Why not become a better person, confidant, employee, boss, co-worker, boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, sister, brother, parent, etc. because of it? 
Wipe your slate clean.  God created you as his masterpiece.  Joel Osteen said (today) that he read an article that determined the worth of the human body.  Researchers say that according to every enzyme, bone, muscle, follicle -- everything in our body, that we are worth $6 million.  SIX MILLION DOLLARS!  Isn't that amazing? 
What's more amazing?  God thinks we are worth so much more than that.  A lot of times when we make mistakes, we feel bad because usually we feel our worth has gone down in certain person's eyes: our boss, our parents, our significant other, just to name a few examples.  When you put your worth in the hands of human beings, you will be let down.  I know that sounds negative, but it's true.  We are only human.  Things will be said that will hurt you, actions will be taken that might disappoint you at times.  These things may be on purpose, some of them may not.  Regardless, they're only human and you can expect them to make mistakes as well.  But know that God is the only one that really matters, and His mercy allows us to be a byproduct of His grace.  Furthermore, the people who are meant to be in your life will forgive you as well, as they are living uniformly with God's will everyone.  So stop worrying about that and know that God has forgiven you because he, frankly, is awesome.  Honestly, can you imagine watching your only son be nailed to a cross?  Can you imagine watching people laugh and make fun of him?  Hurt him?  Humiliate him in the worst way possible?  Watch them relish every last breath?  And then be able to forgive them all?  That's exactly what God did.  So I think he'll be able to forgive you saying that thing you wish you didn't say or for royally screwing up your team's project.

Know that your worth is not dependant on if someone else forgives you, if someone else thinks you're amazing or if someone else wants you for the job.  It's God who gives you your worth, and he thinks you are absolutely amazing.  He forgives you, and when He does, you are free.

Thank God for your mistakes.  Do so knowing that these things are making you a stronger, more able human being.  They teach you lessons and make you better for them.  They allow you to progress and to overcome them in the future (at least that's what they're intended for).  While mistakes bring you trouble and dispair, know that for every trial God will bless you double for your hardship.  He does not want you to wallow in guilt, but rather soar in the spirit.

Forgiving yourself is just as important as forgiving others... which I'll discuss in Part II tomorrow.

Oct 11, 2010

Do not love the world, you dig?

Such a great verse I read while browsing through my bible perusing on Facebook before bed tonight (a friend had this as her status -- Mark Zuckerberg is spreading the gospel!!!).   I think it's easy to get wrapped up in material items and secular things that bring us brief joy -- trust me, I know I can get pretty thrilled with Award Shows, or when my team is winning, or when my bank account looks like I could make it rain all night long (rarely) -- especially as newbies in the adult world.  But those things won't be around for the long haul.  That's why you should measure your life in love, right?  Holler.  On another note, this whole paragraph reminds me of The Social Network... oh the irony.

15 Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For everything in the world—the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does—comes not from the Father but from the world. 17 The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.  1 John 2:15-17

I'm going to go read my bibe bible bibe (I like the abbreved version, even if it was just a typo) now because something is just wrong with that whole first paragraph.


Oct 10, 2010

Ain't nobody rip it like me K to the I-R-B-I-E

I haven't done a #musicmonday in awhile, so here are my picks for this week!


  • Check It Out by Will.I.Am featuring Nicki Minaj
    • Sweet corn on the COB!!!! I heard this on Saturday night when I was out to drinks and dessert with a friend.  We both started bobbing our heads when this song came on... we both recognized the sample from "Video Killed the Radio Star."  I don't have Shazaam so I was SOL trying to figure out who the artist was.  It was rather loud and we knew it wasn't Akon or Timbaland, however we both recognized Nicki's voice (her verse kills it).  Cue me endlessly searching the internet.  After 24 hours of research I finally found it!  I am going to be playing this song on repeat on the tred at the gym this week... and it makes me want to party.
  • La La La by Auburn
    • Not sure if I already mentioned this song, but it's another track that's equally wonderful for the gym or the dance floor.  I think it's the auto-tune that I love so much.  PS: where you at, T-Pain?!
  • Here I Come by Fergie featuring Will.I.Am
    • Another sampled song, but I love sampled tracks!  I know one could argue it takes the originality out of the song, but I dig it.  I also enjoy that Fergie is rapping.  A great "feel good" song if I do say so myself.  (Blog title courtesy of Feraglicious herself)
  • I'm Your Baby Tonight by Whitney Houston
    • Oh girl.  This is Whitney at her finest, before Bobby and crack.  I swear that growing up the only music I was exposed to was Whit, Miss Jackson if you're nasty and Salt 'N Pepa.  Speaks lengths about my personality.
  • Place in this World by Michael W. Smith
    • This isn't a "party" jam per se, but it is a JAM.  I love blasting this one in the car or when I'm ending my work out and stretching out the limbs.  On a personal note, a lot of us can relate to it.

Oct 8, 2010

Preparing for your blessings

Everything that we go through, we're slowly being prepared for something.  My mom told me once I moved into my new apartment that I needed to keep it clean.  I am notorious for not hanging up my clothes!  Seriously, something that takes only five minutes, you think I'd be able to put them on a hanger and be done with it.  But for whatever reason, this didn't seem necessary to me.  I was busy, I had other things to worry about, yadda yadda.  She then said to me something that I will never forget: "Kirbie, how are you supposed to receive bigger blessings when you don't appreciate the ones you already have?"

I never thought of it that way... that I wasn't be appreciative by not keeping my room tidy.  It was my room after all!  For whatever reason, that really hit me hard.  And I've kept the place nice and tidy, clothes hung up immediately when they're finished being washed.  Baby steps.

I think this example is a great way to transition into what I really want to talk about.  Preparation.  Preparation is all we have, since we are not in control.  We can't map out our lives and know when and where things are going to happen, only God does.  But we can prepare for blessings.  We can prepare for a great opportunity by practicing our craft, whether that be painting, a promotion, singing, basketball or writing.  We can prepare for a larger house by taking care of the one we have now.  We can always be doing something to prove to God that we are patiently awaiting those blessings and when we receive them, we will be ready.

Remember?  God isn't going to give us anything we can't overcome or handle.  That is the truth.  And while he is almighty and can change anything for the better, you have to put in some work as well.

For me, I am convinced that the reason why I'm feeling lonely at this time in my life is because I am being prepared for the future.  I have a very odd yet comforting confidence that a blessing is going to be bestowed upon me that requires that I have this time alone, to wonder, to think, to get my heart and my head straight.  And feeling this way has allowed me to be comforted during times when I'm feeling like I have nobody to confide in.

Tell the people: 'Consecrate yourselves in preparation for tomorrow, when you will eat meat. The LORD heard you when you wailed, "If only we had meat to eat! We were better off in Egypt!" Now the LORD will give you meat, and you will eat it.  

Numbers 11:18

See?  The Lord hears you.  He hears your desires.  He hears what you're most worried about, what you're most excited about.  And he wants to give you your heart's greatest desires, but he wants you to be prepared for them as well.  When something is happening in your life that you don't understand, it's to prepare you.  Better when, when something isn't happening, it's to make sure you are ready when the time actually comes.

Anytime, I mean anytime you are feeling something:  you are feeling blissfully happy, you are going through a struggle, you are put in a position where you're not sure which way to go, or when there is nothing going on: things are still and you have to wait, just know that these are all ways God is preparing you for other experiences, and for the future.  Anything worth having didn't come easy, but that isn't to say that God isn't going to bestow an explosive blessing in your life either.  Regardless of what may be happening, be prepared, and situate yourself into the best life you can have.

Oct 7, 2010

The best tacos I could ever make

Last night I was determined to get my Susie Homemaker on.  I was never the little girl who grew up and thought, "I can't wait to cook dinner for my family one day!"  But now, as I've entered this strange thing called adulthood (if you must call me an adult), I figure that I better have some recipes I can pass down to my kids one day, just like my grandmother did with her kids, and my mom to me.

A huge step in my cooking life happened last Thanksgiving.  I stayed in Los Angeles for my first Day of Thanks away from the family.  I made my first Thanksgiving dinner without my mom or aunts and I think it went pretty well.   If anything, I tried HARD.  I wanted that meal to be the best it could be.  It was good, but now I know things that I'll change for the future: I am going to mash my own potatoes, because the boxed kind isn't going to cut it.  Seriously, they were woof-tastic.  But the turkey was juicy, the sweet potatoes were delish, and the green bean casserole and stuffing was super.  YES!  I can cook.

We still haven't gotten the gas turned on.  I know what you're thinking: LAZY!  But honestly, it's not a laziness issue, it's a time issue.  I don't have the time to take off of work to stay and wait for the gas company to show.  We will get it turned on eventually, especially once it gets colder here.  Anyway, in lieu of not having a stove or oven, I decided to utilize the crocpot I purchased several months ago.  The thing was literally in the box until I busted it out last night.

What was I going to make?  Tacos.  Yep.  I needed some good mexican food, and if I'm not at Chuy's, La Margarita, Blue Mesa or Uncle Julio's, I don't like anything other than my mom's mexican cuisine.

So here is how you can make my new specialty, Green Chile Chicken Tacos!

You'll need:

A package of boneless, skinless chicken thighs
1/2 cup of salsa (I bought Rotel)
4 cloves of garlic, thinly sliced
1 tablespoon of chopped canned chipotle chiles (I bought green chiles, which are delicious... I could eat them out of the can)
1 teaspoon of chile powder
Coarse salt and pepper
Taco shells (I got these white corn shells that are low in trans fat)
Shredded cheese, lime wedges, sour cream for garnish

This takes about five minutes to prepare.

- Put chicken, salsa, garlic, chiles, chile powder and salt and pepper in crocpot.  Cook on high for four hours, or you can cook on low for eight hours like me.
- Voila!  Eight hours later, the chicken is so tender it's literally shredded itself in the pot.  All of the juices create a super delicious aroma and it fills the house perfectly.

- It serves four, but since I was making them just for me, I get leftovers! Cha-ching!
- I served the tacos with one spoonful of Rotel, some cheese, a squeeze of lime, green chiles and a dollop of Daisy sour cream (I'm not a huge sour cream fan, but it offered a nice coolness to the spicy and warm chicken)

These were perfect since I wasn't feeling well today and stayed home from work.  Also a necessary "comfort meal" since I've been missing baby Mommis' home cooking!  Next recipe: Turkey Chili.  Mmmm!

Oct 6, 2010

Hope and Faith

It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed. (Deuteronomy 31:8)

Resilience.  I have been told on many occasions I am resilient.  During good times, during bad, I always hear that word.  "You got to where you are because you are a resilient person."  "You will be fine, because you are resilient!"  I slowly started to hate the word, because I felt maybe I was enduring disappointments because God knew I'd bounce back. 

I know that wasn't the case.  And, I know what you're thinking.  "Kirbie, don't flatter yourself.  This isn't the worst thing you could be called."  Trust me, I've been called some things.  And sure, there are worse traits to have, but I didn't want to be the butt of all situations just because God thought I wouldn't have a meltdown.  I'm always flattered when people tell me I am a strong person, but then I hear 'resilient' and I get all nauseous.  But the thing about God is that he knows everything about us and everything we are feeling.  Those feelings are especially important to him, and he wants to guide you and bring you peace.  But when you're upset about something or life isn't going how you think it should, you tend to wonder why you're the one having to go through it.

For me, getting over trials and tribuations that I have encountered hasn't ever been an option.  It's just been something that's a normal piece of life's puzzle.  I didn't think this was particularly interesting until I started hearing the word "resilient" from people, and they would tell me how they were letting things majorly affect their attitude and quality of life.  This made me realize that perhaps being resilient wasn't so bad after all.  And  I largely attribute that to my hopeful nature and faith in God.

I totally feel like Tyra Banks right now.  She always turns thing around to make them about her and how she's so amazing -- it's so ridiculous but hilarious at the same time.  I'm not trying to do that.  However, this is my blog.  I'm detailing personal experiences on here so that if anything, I hope I can help someone to keep their hope and faith in tact.

How has my hope and faith kept me 'resilient'?  Well, even when I'm anxious or impatient, I hope that there is a lesson being learned, or that eveyrthing is happening for a reason.  This stems from faith.  In my life, without fail, when something doesn't go as I see it, it's happening for a very divine reason.  It always ends up for the better, even if I'm wondering how at the time.  I have to truly believe these things.  Otherwise, I have a feeling I'd be pretty lost and helpless.

Hope is so important to have.  How would the world be if we didn't hope for the best?  Hope for the better?  What if we stopped hoping for cures for cancer?  Or stopped hoping for change?  While many may add that you can hope, but as some point you have to take action, it starts with the hope that God will provide some answers.  I agree, action must be taken at some point, but you don't just get lucky and overcome a disease my osmosis, or attain a better job by not wishing for something better.  You have have to have hope that something great is coming.

As far as luck goes, I have learned that it isn't a part of the Christian vocabulary.  I know many people attribute their successes to being "lucky," but I assure you that God didn't let them succeed by chance.  It is all a part of His plan for them.  Preparing for something and allowing the right timing to follow doesn't mean you're lucky.  It just means that God saw it as the right time!

Hoping and keeping the faith.  I guess this plays into the negativity thing I discussed in the previous post.  How are we supposed to live positive lives without hope?  Think about it: if we didn't have hope, our mother, whom was just diagnosed with breast cancer, might as well be long-gone.  If we didn't hope that she'd go into remission, what else is there?  How about if she does pass away.  How are we supposed to forge on during what is sure to be a difficult time without faith?  What about not landing that job we wanted and being told "no" a thousand times?  Or ending a relationship that meant a lot to us?  These things can tear us up.  But if we don't have hope that everything is going to work out just as it's supposed to, we keep our sights on our emotions and not on God's plan.

When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears, and rescues them from all their troubles. (Psalm 34:17)

Faith is so important because means that regardless of the circumstance, what we're going through or how we're feeling, that we put total trust in God.  That no matter what might be going on around us, internally we understand that it's all happening for specific purpose.  This means especially during times when there is nothing going on: when things are still.  We live in a world of instant gratification and tend to think if we don't see immediate results or get immediate answers, that we need to seek them ourselves.  I would strongly advise against this.  We must learn patience!  Even when it seems as if nothing is happening, God is stirring and will present Himself in his own time.  That's the thing about God.  We might think he needs to give us a resolution tonight, tomorrow; the sooner the better.  But it's better to patiently wait until the timing is right.  This is something I struggle with daily, but I know it's a lesson learned in due time.

I know at our age, it's easy to wonder what the heck we're doing. "What am I doing with my life?  Where am I headed?  How will I get there?  Is this even the right decision?"  But with a deep-seeded confidence in God, I know that he's going to guide me on all of my travels and all of my paths.  He is going to oversee that I live to my full potential, according to his will.  I'm going to have to be patient, I'm going to have to be understanding, and I'm going to keep having faith.  This will keep the resilience alive in all of us, even during times where we wonder when we're going to bounce back. 

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him who have been called according to his purpose.   (Romans 8:28)
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