(also known as "Stop Being a Judgmental Biotch Day")
I'm creating a National Holiday. I don't have any authority to do so, but it's not a holiday you can take the day off work from, so it shouldn't be an issue. And I've put it conveniently before Valentine's. You'll see why in a second.
Last Thursday, I had an event in Hollywood, so obviously my first priority was getting to In 'N Out for some MAJOR NOMMAGE. I don't live close to either In 'N Outs in LA, and since Hollywood is generally one giant clustereff at any given moment, I try not to venture northeast often.
I was waiting in line to place my order and a girl came up to my window. She was petite, and looked like she should probably be in high school, if not newly graduated. She was STUNNING. I have never seen a person this beautiful in LA. Everyone here thinks they're good looking but mostly they look really, really fake and have terrible extensions and too much eyeliner on. This girl had a remarkable face. Her hair was pulled back and she was in her In 'N Out uniform. Obviously this means something, because not everyone can look like a gorgeous specimen of a human being in those outfits. So she took my order (and I was slightly embarrassed that I was placing an order at 9:30 at night) and was about to walk off after giving me my total.
I felt SO compelled to tell this girl how pretty she was. I mean, SHE WAS. So before she walked away, I go (like an idiot), "Wait! I just have to say this. You are really beautiful." I am embarrassed at this point.
She smiles and before I can finish, says, "You are too. I wanted to tell you but thought it would be weird."
And then we straight up HUGGED IN THE PARKING LOT. I rolled down my window all the way and we gave each other a car hug. It was so bizarre, but it really made me feel like I was in touch with the human race. And we both kind of hugged and it was this super weird yet very gratifying hug, like, "Thank you for saying that. I needed it."
This got me thinking. Ladies, why can't we tell each other we're beautiful? Is that word reserved for a man to say to you? I know that I don't tell my girlfriends they're beautiful enough. I'll say, "You are look so cute!" and stuff like that, but not like, "Girlfriend you look gorgeous." And that is sad. I have truly beautiful friends. I don't think it's normal to have friends who are wonderful inside and out... but I'm not going to question it.
I have to credit my dear friend Natalie, as she tells me I'm beautiful all the time. I think this is because I vent to her a lot and she tells me this to calm me down. (It works.) But we all need to pay this FORWARD! Let's stop judging other girls and being envious of what they have or don't have and embrace each other! And love each other! This sounds like a scene out of Mean Girls, but truly, we all need to take a hot second and stop referring to other girls as bitches and a) figure out why we really say that (if she is -- it's the truth; if not, she's probably better at something or has something you don't). Tell that girl you see on the subway every other day that she's pretty. She won't be offended. In fact, it could make her day. Maybe she is single and just moved to the city, and she's feeling down on her luck.
Tell that girl in the office you don't talk to that she looks stunning in the dress she's wearing -- it might help her to forget the endless emails and troubleshooting she's going to have to deal with in the next 10 minutes. And tell your good friends they have a great body or that you think they're pretty. Sometimes, we hide our emotions from our friends so they don't think we're having a rough time. Telling them these things might be just what they need to hear right now.
GUYS: you're included. Don't think you can get out of this one. Maybe that person is your mother or sister. Or maybe it's someone you're courting, or maybe it's some chick you see every day at Starbucks when you get your morning coffee. If you think they're beautiful (pretty, gorgeous, insert adjective here), TELL HER! Just don't be creepy about it, okay? Thanks.
So, go on now. Tell a woman she's beautiful today, on National "Tell A Woman She's Beautiful" Day (February 13th).