Nov 17, 2012

Excuses are like...

Does anyone like excuses? No. Because more than likely, if you're giving one, you screwed something up, or pissed someone off. 

Here are just a few things nobody needs your excuses for:

1. Not Meeting a Deadline
If you live in a deadline-driven world at work, or you're in school, you know that excuses aren't going to help if you miss a deadline. That is, unless someone died, or you're about to die. Don't bother explaining that you "forgot" and you're going through a traumatic time because you just broke up with your boyfriend. In the real world, unfortunately, nobody cares about this problem of yours (in this particular instance). It's like that quote: "Might as well be happy because nobody cares if you're sad." Might as well suck it up and deal with the consequences because nobody cares why you didn't meet the deadline.

There are appropriate times to explain yourself. Maybe your coworker is trying to sabotage you, or it's the third time this has happened in a month and you realize it's because your boss has moved the deadline six times in the past five days. But if you can't meet a deadline, what are you doing with your life? Pull it together.

Exceptions: death in the family; hospitalization.

2. Cheating
If you cheated, this is how that conversation needs to go:
"I cheated on you, I'm deeply sorry because I know I hurt you, and there is no good excuse for this. I can't change it."
Your relationship is probably over, but even if they ask what happened, don't tell them. This is for their own good. They don't need to know that you "didn't love" the other person, that you were drunk, or you were doing it to get back at them for texting so-and-so for the past four weeks. Let it be. In the long run, it will help them not to deal with ghosts of boyfriends/girlfriends past, and frankly, no excuse can really fix the impending doom your relationship is about to go through.

Exceptions: marriage. I think marriage is one of those things where you try your hardest to work it out. I wouldn't give the dirty details, and I wouldn't say who it was. But I would definitely not give any excuses either.

3. Why You're Not Dating or Married Yet
If you are 25 and single (like I am) I have every Tom, Dick, Harry & Sally asking me why I'm not actively dating and why I haven't found Mr. Right. First off, screw you. I don't have to have an excuse for this, and frankly, I'm sick of talking about it. Am I not allowed to be alone? And enjoy my life without having a significant other? I like knowing I can leave work at 7:00, still have time to work out and hit the gym, and be in bed by 10:30 or 11:00 -- without worrying about meeting with my boyfriend. I know that sounds ludicrous to some people, but right now I don't want to make time for anyone else except me and what I want out of life. I don't need an excuse to be selfish as this age.

If you are longing to have a love in your life and you've been waiting patiently for The One, stay patient. And don't make excuses. You don't have to explain to anyone why that person hasn't come into your life yet, or why you don't date more, or why you blew off the guy your friends set you up with after the first date. Love isn't forced, and if you're not feeling it, don't waste your time! Just be open, be ready, and be excited and hopeful for things to come.

Also, if you're in a happy relationship, it can be really hard to hear, "so, when are you two getting hitched?" when all of your friends are moving that way. Let things happen the way they should. Don't feel pressured.

Exceptions: None. Don't excuse yourself because others can't understand your situation.



Nov 6, 2012

VOTE, but don't vote for this guy


I rarely give political opinions, but it's Election Day so here's my two cents:

California, vote YES to Prop 37 -- we deserve to know what's in our food! More importantly, I have no idea how districting works here (it's my first time voting in this state), but if Henry Waxman is on your ballot, DO NOT vote for him! Get him out of office. I've kept quiet on a few things lately but I can talk about this. Score. 

He's responsible (with his buddy Selig) for The Mitchell Report and U.S. vs. Roger Clemens, a laughable federal case which was (the CliffNotes version) a modern day Salem Witch Trial, a case made in vain by the government. He chaired the congressional committee that presided over the hearing that got the whole thing started in 2008. They went through not one, BUT TWO trials! TWO! All over testimony he received from one person, and with no proof, no positive drug tests -- nada. (Please don't get me started on aforementioned said "person.")

None of what Waxman had said stood in court, and unfortunately for him, he lost his battle on June 18th, 2012. Unfortunately for us though, it wasted taxpayer money for FOUR YEARS. Anyone with a sound mind who can spend $2-$3 mil (that's only the second trial, people) on a hidden agenda needs to be removed from public office. He's been in Congress since 1975, so let's make a change and let this man retire. Really, we're doing him (and ourselves) a huge favor. 

To read more why he has got to go, The Daily Beast lays out the past five years + this case pretty well. 


Nov 4, 2012

You Down With OCC? (Even if you're not, keeping reading!)


Howdy. The 2012 leg of the Holy Matrimony Tour has almost come to an end. I culminate the whole thing with my final wedding of the year in December. It's been a true blessing, getting to see my best girlfriends so frequently this year. Definitely it's been time cherished, considering all of them will be married off by this time next year, and I know things will change!

With all the traveling comes sickness, and I can already tell I'm in for something monstrous this week in terms of my health. I'm bruising like nobody's business (it's garnered double takes from people on the street), my voice has a husky, Lindsay Lohan ring to it, and I feel like I'm in finals mode: exhausting my mind and body for the sake of acing the test. Not sure what the test is in this situation, but go with it.

Anyway, it's easy to complain when you don't have any real issues to deal with, which brings me to this post. I was starting a pity party for myself when I realized that it's time to start packing shoe boxes! The past eight years I've donated to Samaritan's Purse and it's been one of the most fulfilling things I do during the holiday season. There is nothing more heartwarming, knowing that you are helping someone in need. I've said this before, but while it is heartwarming, it's heartbreaking as well. Realizing there are people struggling, who are happy just to get the most smallest of gestures -- a shoe box -- because they have nothing else is something that makes my heart sink. They are happy to have a hot meal, clean water, or even go to school. These boxes light up their lives. So while they may be small to us, they're a huge help and a source of excitement, hope and joy for others.

Courtesy of Samaritan's Purse

Anyway, this is my post that I re-blog every year with the new dates for collection week. Take a look to see what you need to pack or just visit the Samaritan's Purse website and they'll give you all the details. You can pack and send as many boxes as you like. I love this organization because while they help overseas, they also help here in the United States where it's needed -- so I'm sure this year a lot of boxes will go to children on the east coast, who had to endure the terror of Sandy. (Here's another, more detailed post re: Operation Christmas Child, what it's all about, etc.)

I would be remiss, however, to think that only Christians or people who celebrate Christmas deserve to get a box or give a box. I have been looking for Jewish organizations that do something similar to this, but unfortunately I don't know much about this area (which are best, etc.) and don't want to recommend organizations I haven't worked with first-hand. Please, lead me in the right direction! I'll post them all here. (And not just for Jewish recs either -- any other organizations that you think should be included, please send them my way!) Here are a few that I know would love help this holiday season:

American Red Cross http://www.redcross.org/
Also, here's a link on Amazon to easily order supplies for Sandy victims http://ht.ly/f1Ktk

Also, be sure to check your area locally to see what organizations may be in dire need of your help. Each of the aforementioned organizations are fairly popular, but smaller groups need some love too. A great place to start is your hometown!

Have fun and tweet me your holiday giving spirit on Twitter! (@kirbiej)

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